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Spill. You had to admit it - that you’ve tried so hard to get away, but you just can’t avoid falling in love with your best friend’s ex. Either way around, you’re trapped between the man you adore and the girlfriend who’s like another part of you. So, what should you do?
I know, it is a dilemma, but not bad enough to ruin your life because there must be an uncomplicated way to solve this. I’d say it’s more on the issue of making choices. No wonder there are even courses of decision making available in colleges. Beats me, we need to do a heck lot of decision making all throughout our lives which sometimes doesn’t draw a line between what’s wrong and right.
Back to the main issue.
You’ve always had an eye for your best friend’s boyfriend, even before they hook up together but you just leave it buried down inside of you. So now he’s become your best friend’s past and you’re together (even though it’s still a secret). It must be like in a dream, you’re all happy and psyche but soon those feelings seems to waver and turned into a much more insecurity endurance of emotion - Embarrass? Guilt? Even a little stressed out on how you’re going to tell and face your best friend? Anyhow, it’s nothing but trouble.
Before going further and causes much more complications, sit back and think a little. Ask yourself these questions:-
- How precious do you see your relation with your best friend?
- What’s the real reason you’re attracted to him?
- How does he really feel? Inspect this for yourself; is there a probability that he’s just using you to get back to your best friend?
- What is the meaning of loyalty to you? Because it may be a little different from your friend’s and boyfriend’s view, and if you keep on hanging it to yourself without confronting, it will become a problem, especially when you’re expecting something from both parties.
But! Before you actually finalized your answers to these questions, be sure, be very very sure that you’re being totally honest to yourself. To me, the worst mistake than any person in this world has ever made is denying and not being honest to themselves. In any case, when you’re done you’re most likely to have a solution to your problem.
(Falling in love with your best friend’s boyfriend)
Your contingency plan :
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You could…
Test your new guy. Tell him how happy you are about being with him and look for his reactions when you tell him that you wish to tell your best friend about what’s going on between you and him. Is he as worried about it as you are? Is he annoyed that you’re making a big fuss about it? Anyhow, what you’re looking for should be his utter support and sincerity. No ulterior motives, you might want to clear that one as well.
Be honest…
Not only to yourself, but to your friend too. Try to talk it to her, and better yet, do it with just the two of you. Tell her how you really feel and how much you wish it won’t affect your relationship with her.
Be prepared for the worst…
If you’ve made your mind to keep your current relationship going with your boy, you should be prepare for the worst. But you don’t want to lose her as a friend, so tell her so. If she resisted, then it’s better to let it the matter cool down on its own. Give her some space and room to think about it.
Be smart…
You might feel a little strain in your relationship with your pal consequently. Face it wisely. Be flexible and smart in making your own way about things. If she seems a little passive around you, yet cold, you should just keep it at that, but keep on connecting with her whenever you have the chance. She’ll recover, unless…she still got some kind of feelings for your new love.
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Hi Everyone,
Mine (my story) is different. I never had an eye on my best friend’s girlfriend or his ex. It just happened that at the time when I was lonely the most, the nearest beauty around me and within my reach was my best friend’s ex-girlfriend - little did I know. Hope you will be patient with me while I try to relate this seemingly heartbreaking story of my one extraordinary life.
My friend is a vet and me, a mining engineer. We went to high school together and completed Grade 12 (Matric) together in 1992. He went straight to Medical School to study veterinary medicine. While I battled to find a career for myself. I had also wished to study medicine (MBChB) at the same school of medicine he attended but I was not admitted. So I idled around for a while.
In 1996, South Africa was booming with new fresh hope and opportunities for blacks. And this particular mine was advertising mining bursaries (scholarships) - and that was my breakthrough into mining.
My friend started practicing vet medicine in year 2000 in the Limpopo (Northern) Province of South Africa, our home province. Then I was busy with my mining diploma through Technikon Witwatersrand (based in Gauteng) and my practicals being based in the Mpumalanga (Eastern) Province.
The Dr served his internship while staying and living in our home province which sponsored part of his medical schooling. He met this girl in and around the capital city of the province called Pietersburg (now called Polokoane). She was probably at varsity then, busy with her BSc (Physics & Chemistry) at the largest provincial varsity - between 2000 and 2005. Only they know when and how they met and how long their affair travelled. The Dr then moved to Kimberley - the diamond town about 1300km south west of Pietersburg. That was the end of their lengthy flirt. He changed cell phone numbers, did not provide the girl with the new, started new convenient affairs and moved on with his life to the detriment and hurt of this girl. Girl must have been heartbroken then.
To cut the long story short, I graduated with my diploma sometime in 1993 and went on to work in the mines in various provinces until I headed back to home province.
The mining company i work decided to send me back to the same institution (now called University of Johannesburg) to top up my academic achievements with a Bachelor of Mining Engineering degree - this was to be 18months of intensive fulltime lectures as is.
I started last year (2008) and am finishing up in the next 2 months or so. On arrival here, I was lonely. And while I was busy searching for and buying second hand books, another longtime friend of mine (Electrical Engineer) connected me with his former classmate who was then selling a Mathematics textbook. This friend came with her friend (in question) to sell me the book.
She just looked so so beautiful and level headed and only God knows what? I shelved the idea of sweeping her immediately as my relationship with my then girlfriend was just nearing its end and on a rocky route. This year in early May (2009), I broke the ice just to find her lonely as well. Guess what - I won her into my arms. She’s mine as we chat.
However, two months down the line since May 2009 (that should be in late June versus early July, I initiated this particular conversation which came to be the nightmare of my love life. I started accusing my love for being too much of a Model C (a cheese girl - spoiled, had it all in her upbringing). And then related how I grew up as if I were a hero to have reached the mining engineer level I am appointed on now.
During this conversation I incidentally suggested that she may have been in love with my childhood and high school friend with whom we suffered together and began to relate the success story of my best friend.
It is here where we both discovered that My Best Friend (the vet) was her ex boyfriend she told me about on our first day of meeting. We got shocked but what could we have done then. We were both already obsessed with each one and couldn’t let go of one another.
We had already chatted plans about our future together, about how we were going to get married next year within our first 18months of meeting falling in love and move on happily ever after. We had to reach an agreement here, at this very point. And guess what? That agreement was that we stay together forever, for good. That this silly little fairytale will not break us apart from each one. that we will still go on, have children, get married, build a home for our kids, become together as one regardless.
And what will our friend say if and when he discovers this peri peri news? We agreed that we’re lucky to have discovered this deep iceberg and that we now can handle it better than if we had not known about it. That my best friend will still be my best man at my wedding next year. Unknown to him at his stage. We just did not say when we shall break the “good mouthwatering” news to him. And did not contemplate what his take will be on learning about this news? Anyway, he won’t know that we discovered earlier about this heaviest tip of the iceberg.
Better still, such a discovery was magical, how on earth are we supposed to have known that we both know someone who might be quite close to both of us? How are supposed to react if and when we meet him? How am i supposed to react when I have to go to a gentleman’s room (toilet) and have to leave the pair alone in a restaurant on his first visit to my home and his first discovery of this Mount Everest?
Much better still, should we now break apart because we both know someone who may have to issue a rubberstamp to our marriage of true minds? Does he have to rubberstamp my marriage anyway? He’s supposed to bless me like a friend but under the circumstance - should I expect him to still act as a friend and participate in my wedding affairs as if nothing “unbecoming” is happening?
Fellow human beings! I am at crossroads as in now. Eveytime I have to go to bed with her, i think of my best friend. This happens all the time just before engaging in sexual intercourse. In the malls, restaurants and anywhere else - i feel blessed and overwhelmed to walk and hug this beautiful woman. But the moment in question is the minute just before lovemaking. It makes me feel guilty, as if I am betraying my best friend. I always ask myself: What is my duty now that i am aware that she’s my best friend’s ex? Is she guilty of having been head over heels with my best friend? After all, I am the one that started this whole lovey dovey movement.
I guess I deserve the services of a shrink? In fact, I am consulting one sooner.
Thanks for being a pleasant audience - writing this piece has relieved me of a heavy load somehow. Makes it easier to walk away from this pc feeling human again and not like a best friend’s ex girlfriend’s boyfriend i mostly feel.
My emotions on this topic - never end. And thanks! Peace!
Eishhhhh. . . . . . . . . . . .Why me?
Frans
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September 22nd, 2009 at 3:10 pmebazaar Reply:
Hello Fran!
I had to say Wow! this is a very long comment, but thank you for sharing your story with all of us. Honestly, I don’t really know how to reply to this, but after reading your story I can at least understand your discomfort of your current condition. Empathy isn’t exactly easy to achieve but if I were to be in your shoe, I’d feel a little uncomfortable too.
BUT, I think it’s good that both you and your girl know of what’s really going on. Perhaps you can sometimes talk it over with her. But anyway, its your own happiness you have to decide on, and your girl seems fine with things are. Plus, he left her in the first place right?
All the best for you! Feel free to write to the site anytime. I am no counselor but it’ll easy the burden once we’ve let it go, regardless of the means…
hi
so here’s my story am a girl me n my friend been best friends for a very long time . so this guy liked me but i didnt know so i hooked him up with my best friend .. she fell in love with him but he didnt think she was quite his type their relationship was full of arguments and stress so thy broke up after a few months since thy started dating he broke it up with her when she still loves him .. so 3 passed now n about a year ago i moved to the same place where her ex-boyfriend lives and we both go to the same school . nothing was planned it just happened so i got closer to him in the passed year we got real close and people thought we were together and everything but we werent we are just friends . untill lately he told me he loves me n honestly i feel the same but i kept it in because i feel guilty . i was the one who hooked them up and now he loves me ! so my best friend is in another country but we keep in touch very well we talk alot and all but lately she started thinkin im hiding somthing from her and i try to avoid any conversation that would lead to asking questions about her ex and me .. so as soon as she staarted feeling that im hiding something she started bringing up her ex again alot and telling me how shes not over him after 3 years ! so it feels like she knows and shes telling me it would hurt her or like shes stopping me from being with the guy .. so i asked about this and he told me that everythng was meant to be we never planned any of this and wer planning on getting serious in a few months he wants us to get engaged but im tooo scared to lose my best friend and i kno i cant lose the guy i love hs the reason why am happy he brings joy to my world n i cant imagine my life without him we went to school together and college and now we want to settle down together but i dont kno what to do whether its the right thing to do or not to be with him .. and i dont kno how to tell my best friend shes a bit fussy and she gets mad quick am not sure she would let me explain or that she would understand and i still feel guilty i tried to stay away from him but we both realized faith brought us together for a reason .. please help me clear this i dont kno wer am standing and its not making things go well between me and my besfriend
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October 7th, 2009 at 5:51 amMatt Reply:
Hi there, I’m a guy so I’m not really sure how to put this. I think I know how your friend feels and what reaction she will has because I have gone through the same thing. Anyway, that was 5 years ago and I have found a new partner. So it doesn’t matter anymore.
I think you know what you want but you just don’t have enough courage. But are you really sure he’s your Mr right? If so, gather your courage and clear things up. Tell her honestly how you feel and that you love both of them. I think that’s the best solution. You can not hide forever and this is your happiness at stake. When the time come to get married are you still thinking you can hide it? If she is your best friend you will need her blessing too. Lets all be happy!
Kind regard, Matt
Hey…
So my best friend has always had a thing for this guy from the moment she saw him. I personall thought he was an okay looking guy. But he was never my type. He was kinda an ass sometimes but then he could be nice. My best friend talks to him on facebook comsantly but now we start talking on the bus and on fcebook and told my best friend he liked me..she kept bugging me about it asking me do you like him? I kept sayin no but deep down I truely did..I finally told her t homecoming that I did. A few days after I was talking to her about it and it deemed like she mitt have been talking to him about me (maybe not saying the most positive things about me..maybe not telling him that I liked him) but whenever I talk about him to her she doesn’t seem into it. Like she is mad. I understan that completely. But I like him and I want him to know. But she’s my best friend and I don’t want to hurt her. But I feel like I can’t sen sit next to him on the bus without her getting mad at me. They never went out!!
I don’t know what to do..
I like him!
But..
She’s my best friend?
HELP!
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October 17th, 2009 at 3:53 pmebazaar Reply:
Hmm, I’m not sure of what’s right to say really. But if she’s your best friend she would have act better to you right? You know one thing about girlfriends and best friends - they can get a lil mean sometimes. Ever watch ‘Gossip Girl’ before? If you have, you’ll probably get my point…but in the end, you might ask yourself, was the guy worth more than your relationship? And plus, sometimes we may like a guy or girl, but maybe it’s just an infatuation, and there’s nothing wrong in telling the guy you like him, and your friend should know you better. She was prolly scared he would like you back when she was actually after him. Just go with the flow and see what happens. Be happy, alright! and thanks for dropping by.
I’m going through this now. It’s so horrid, because I like the boy so so so much, and I have done since way before my friend and him started going out. But I’m not going to act on it because I feel unfair on her, even though they ended things about 5 months ago and she likes somebody else now.
Thank-you for the article though. I value my friendship much more than this boy, so I think I’ll stick to that to be honest. xxx
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October 17th, 2009 at 3:57 pmebazaar Reply:
Well, it’s great that you seem to find what’s your priority. It all depends largely on situation right? Sometimes when we think he is the one, he wasn’t and friends were the ones there for us. and at other times, it’s the other way round. But you’re right - just be honest with your own feelings, where you feel you stand most comfortable at. Thanks for dropping by~ come drop by again soon~
well k well it started when me and the guy started to hang out then i notice how different he was…….i use to like his friend but the other guy was to much of a flirt so i thought it time to move on but then i remember my best girlfriend the guy i like ex gf… well i started to tell ppl and then my best girlfriend found out (not lez either)
THEN she txted me and was like never tlk to me and i was like you need to get over your self then she was like shut up and i was like no then i was like your a waste of my time so watever and know i dont think were goin to be friends again….. but it so stupid cause before i said everythin i was like i would never do that to my bestgirlfriend and now look she can only be a B**CH ABOUT STUFF…..:(
well before i found out i told the guy how i felt and all he said was o…..
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so me and my best friend’s ex are dating now
i want to tell her but i dont know how to D:
she dated him for about two months.
she said she never liked him and was only trying to.
over the summer her ex talked to me~
and it seemed like i could be friends with him
since we have common interests and i kind of felt bad
for him after what my friend did to him. its been
6 months now~ and recently he asked me out.
and i said yes. we’ve been dating for 2 weeks now and
he wants me to tell my best friend because we can never
hang out at school since im always with her. any advice?
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February 25th, 2010 at 6:30 amMatt Reply:
6 months is a long time. Did she ever talk about her ex after that? If you know what she feels and how she reacts toward him, you can see the situation in broader view. Sooner or later she will know but it’s better not from someone else.
So I’ve been best friends with my friend since middle school and i used to have a crush on him since then but they started going about about a year ago when she knew that i kinda had a crush on him but as soon as they started talking to each other i just kept it hidden. Suddenly when he started going to college with us he also became my friend too. Sometimes when they argue with each they bring me into it and I’m always telling her not to screw up cause he’s a good guy but she doesn’t give and damn and he loves her, but lately I’ve been told that him and i get along better than he does with her. I’ve asked her before what would she do if one of her friends began to date one of her ex’s and she doesn’t seem to like the idea. What can i do If i’ve tried to keep my distance from him and it doesn’t work. Should i tell him to stop talking to me flat out?
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February 25th, 2010 at 6:41 amMatt Reply:
I think the first priority is to sort out yours and his feeling. Since she already has her stand, that she doesn’t like you to date her ex means it will be troublesome if you can not refuse the temptation. Even if you love him but he doesn’t then it won’t work as well. But to tell him directly to stop talking to you means you will also gonna loss one of your good friend. Sometimes a friend is more valuable than bf / gf. Friends last longer while couples face many hardships and once it over then it’s bye bye, just my opinion…
ok so i think im in love with my best friends ex bf.hannah and i have been friends since kindergarten.jared and i sence the end of fifth grade.im only in sixth grade tho.:’<
but iv nvr felt this way twards anybody…iv like realy like jared since august 15,2009.yes thats the real date.but i introduced him and hannah thinkin that she was going to help me get with hym.well…turns out that he liked her more thatn me and asked her out.soo they dated and broke up dated agin and yet agin broke up.so he’s over her now and i think likes me.but hannah still loves him and wants him back.i see him everyday and wer real close.i want him to ask me out but at the same time i dont…i feel guilty to even talk about him with her.just saying jared makes her sad.but i cant help feeling wgat im feeling.she thinks he likes me a lot and i do to but she also thinks that i should ask HIM out but i dont wanna risk the chance of messing up our friendship if he doenst like me that way or if he does damaging my relatshionship with hannah.she wants me to be happy but i cant be if i know that im realy killing her inside.i feel so lost and confuzed.i dont want to hurt her but i want to be with jared.
plz help as best u can,
mequaela.
(makala)
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February 25th, 2010 at 7:00 amMatt Reply:
That’s really confusing. So you yourself not sure how Hannah feels, Jared’s feeling and your own feeling? Why not wait a little longer and see how the relationship between Hannah and Jared end up. She might get over him as time passes. At the same time try to confirm if Jared also has a feeling toward you. To be with him means he also needs to has the same feeling as you do, right?
My friend just broke up with her ex about 2 days ago. They were in a relationship for about 3ish months and I have only liked him for about 2 weeks. I was kind of happy that they broke up, but not really, because my best friend was heartbroken.
Today, i went on a school trip with this guy, and he sat next to me. We have been friends for a while, but today I learned his true feelings for me.
We ended up sharing my blanket, holding hands, and talking for about 4 hours (the whole trip). I think this might really turn into something, we were even gazing into each other’s eyes for a while. :).
I am just scared that my friend might get mad at me..I told her that it was nothing, but there are going to be rumors tomorrow. They have only been broken up for a day, so I’m not sure if he’s sure, and I’m not sure if my friend will take it nicely..
help!! send advice to my email
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Okay guys so heres the thing…im the best friend who got hurt. My best friend was always there for me, even when i met this guy…i mean i really liked him when i first met him, but my other friends didnt approve, clearly because they thought i was too pretty for him, but my best friend was with me 100% and told me to forget about them and she thinks hes awesome for me. So i started dating him. A few months after, I fell in love with him. He was such a good guy every time we had our problems he would do anything to get me back, he would do anything for me, he treated me like a QUEEN!!…and obviously, i took advantage of that. I treated him like crap! i didnt know what my problem was. i couldnt even express my true feelings to this guy! i would act like a little kid and not care! so he would go back to my best friend and express his feelings to her and how he hates how bad i treat him! thats when i guess she started to notice how much of a good guy he was. she was also hurt in past relationships…but anyway i guess she decided to break us up. no it hasnt been proven but now i truly believe it was her fault. she told him i was trying to get back with my other ex boyfriend(UNTRUE) and the things she did, it was just all becoming so fishy! so he broke up with me after a huge fight and told me he couldn’t take it anymore, i was so shocked, i was so sad i cried every night and i lost so much weight, because i thought i knew what was going on. i hoped and prayed it wasnt what i thought it was. a few months down the road our friendship was fading because of me, i had a feeling she broke us up but i tried avoiding that thought, anyway every chance i got i told her i was still in love with him and i needed her help to get him back because i didnt know what to do, its like i was going crazy! she always said she would help me out.
so i guess soo much months later she decides to come clean with me. yep, it was what i wasnt trying to hear. she told me they were together for about 8 months and their in love. they are planning a wedding during the summer and she just couldnt hold it in anymore. i was so shocked i couldnt talk, all i did was cry day and night i told her to get out of my face. i even called him to see if it was a joke. it was not a joke. all these times we seen him and i was nervous, all these times i asked her to help me, all these times i cried to her, all these times i would talk about him…she was dating him. it was probably the worst thing i had ever had to go through. even today it hurts, seeing pictures of them on facebook together and everybody asking me what happened? well im not going to lie she tried really hard to get our friendship back, but i was so disgusted and shocked. its been a couple of months ever since i spoke to either of them. but sometimes i do miss her but people would think im crazy if we ever became friends again. I WOULD THINK IM CRAZY. their both still together and are pretty happy actually. but the questions in my head is does she like him because she seen how much of a good guy he was and she just like stole him from me? or were they meant to be and is she really in love with him and she cant really control feelings? what should i do? well him, im obviously over him, but it will haunt me every time i talk to a new guy and he doesnt treat me as good as he did, it will really haunt me. i just dont know what to do and how to live like this anymore? even though i tried so hard to forget about it and live my life, sometimes…like times like these you’ll be alone and be buried with your own thoughts. what do you guys think about this whole thing? and think i should do?
- Brooke <3
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My post got deleted?
well anyways my best friend and i are slowly becoming close again. i accepted the fact that they love eachother and are dating now. I guess i had to be the bigger person here, even though i would never think i would ever have to do that. It sucked not being friends with her. even though she dated him behind my back. i learned to just deal with it and we talked about it. it does suck seeing them together and witnessing so much more. but if i got through everything else i can get through this. p.s it also showed me i wasnt as in love with him as i thought i was. i have a new boyfriend nowm hes awesome!
anyways girls if you had to go through your bestfriend betraying you and going “behind your back” and dating your ex you told her you still liked..its okay because she was your best friend for a reason right? theres so much more behind the story. Forgive and forget and move on! LOVE AMBER xoxoxo
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March 24th, 2010 at 4:27 amMatt Reply:
Hi Amber, I’m the author’s friend. I just drop by to check her blog since she is still busy and can not pay much attention to the blog. I just approved your previous post, sorry for the late response.
Anyway, I got your point. It happened to me too, may be slightly different. For anyone who face the same problem, I just have this piece of advice. If the relationship does not go well as expected whatever you try and you just feel so hopeless, it does not mean that it’s the end of everything. You can cry and be sad then just let it go. You will definitely, surely meet someone who can appreciate you more. Well, I can say that I’m happier than before. I do not regret having to put my past behind and that is what we all should do. Don’t you agree? Just appreciate what you hold dear now and think positively.
My best friend just got broken up with by her boyfriend of 11 months and the day after he told me that he really likes me. I have always sort of liked him too and thought that I wish I could be with him (turns out we both always wanted it that way). Now that the feelings started pouring out, I was really happy but I am afraid that she would hate me. (Yes, she probably would…) She won’t stop crying about him and she still needs to get over him. I just hope him & I still have a chance together because I really like him and one day I do really want to be with him. Maybe not today but, one day?
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Brianna…Do not set yourself up for disappointment. You deserve differently. I know this will probably fall on death ears. There are certain unspoken boundaries you should NEVER cross. The first way to know that is if you were in her shoes and she was your friend how would you feel? I see this as a RED FLAG for you. He did her a favor and you the injustice. She will be fine. But I am not so sure you will be. Trust me…he will always be looking for the NEXT NEW and exciting relationship. It actually has NOTHING to do with you. Speak with a relationship expert and they can help lead you in a direction best for YOU and it not be based on other factors. Good Luck. Love yourself first, your friends second and leave their boyfriends and husbands out of your life. REMEMBER: YOU DESERVE TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.
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May 21st, 2011 at 5:51 amnotangel Reply:
I also have this experience with my bestfriends exboyfriend. My bestfriend and I are roomates and her exboyfriend was my friend and classmate too. My bestfriend doesn’t have a boyfriend so I decided to advice my classmate which is Neil to court my bestfriend sheena since they already know each other well. I already have a boyfriend eversince. To make the story short they had a relationship and Neil is always visiting sheena at our hotel. I can see that Neil is very responsible, loving, and committed boyfriend. I was appreciating him secretly because sheena is very demanding and that he is very patient. I’m really sure it was just appreciation. Before our graduation sheena and neil broke up because neil was tired of sheena’s attitude. I was sorry for that since i know they love each other. After graduation Me and neil with our other friends went to a different place and stayed at the same room because we need to do a project. We drink for our accomplishment and we got drunk. Me and neil kissed each other but i really stopped him because I know it was not right. But then there was a time that we had sex when he and i was left alone together. We both agreed that we don’t have any commitment because i am committed and also him in a different girl.No string attached since i love my boyfriend and that I know I will not exchange my boyfriend to someone like him since he is a cheater too . Now we don’t see each other but i missed him. Is it wrong to see him when he also wishes too?
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wow. this kinda helped because im goin thru the exact same thing now. but im still confused on how should i tell my best friend because she is still pretty mad at her ex. i really like him though. we tlk for hours on end. what should i do???
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This is what happened to me, and I think it is far worse than anything else that could have happened.
Me and my ex boyfriend were dating for a very very very long time. Then he dumped me. I was devastated.I went to my best friend for comfort. She told me he is a douchebag and that nobody will ever date him bcuz he is sooo mean and such a jerk and a fuckwit. I felt better and I thought I didnt need him.
Then, my best friends ex boyfriend (who she dumped after me and my boyfriend broke up) called me on the phone, sobbing. He said that my ex boyfriend had asked my best friend out and she had said yes. My ex had led this other girl on a lot and he said he was going to ask her out, but instead he asked out my best friend.
I thought I was over him, but a couple nights ago we all went to a party. They were snuggling on a couch and I couldnt help but feeling jealous as he kept kissing her cheeks. I know that he will never be mine again, but I still love him. So. So. So much. :’( </3
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