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Can I Really Date My Office Mate?
To date or not to date, that is the question. Okay, so you’re saying that love can be everywhere and regardless of where it starts, you’ll never know how it will end up. But think about it again - what is the main reason you don’t really expect to find love at places such as night clubs, discos and wild parties? Because it’s simply not meant to be. But of course, again it is some sort of an individual choice, and in the end there goes the saying: you can find love anywhere.
Romance at the Office
Before you start to even think of dating your office mate, you should go through your company policies again. Due to many reasons (mostly negative, of course), certain company prohibit any intimate relationship between the company’s staff, and if the rule is being violated, it may even result to multiple warnings, suspension and even firing. Yup, that’s service termination and it’s that serious.
Office Romance: The Pros and Cons
So you’re done flipping through the company’s policies and found no mention of prohibition of office mates dating, now what you should do is consider the pros and cons. Being in the same office would probably means you’ll get to see each other often, get to know what’s going on around him or her, share the same work pressure making you able to understand him or her more. But there are always risks. Actually, I should say dating your office mate is a risky business because you may not know your own level of relationship pressure acceptance. When you’re around him or her all the time, but you are not alone, there are also other people around - you’ll get to see first hand of how people react towards him or her in front of you. Jealousy, misunderstandings and insecurity are all sure things that you’ll come across. Are you prepared for all these?
The hardest part is probably not you and your partner but people around you. Some may feel uncomfortable and some may not like the idea of you two dating when you’re both working in the same office. That’s the bigger issue - facing and confronting negative consequences entailed by the romance that you chose to have. And in cases they didn’t know of your current love affair, you’ll probably have to stand people gossiping about all the negative stuffs other colleagues have in mind of your lover.
Let’s take a look from an employer’s point of view, and see your company as one big family. Your boss is playing both role of your parents but they aren’t as nice your parents might be. Romance will definitely affect an employee’s decision making, especially when both parties work in the same department or in a small sized companies or in a small branch. Truth has it that work and personal matters should not collide in order to increase and maintain above average productivity. From your own personal point of view, you probably may expect a few silent uproars coming up. For example in the case of job promotion when one is offered and another is not. There’ll be that ‘ego’ issue you probably have to deal with, and chances are your relationship may not last as long as you’ve expected it to be.
Despite all those said above, I’m not saying that you can’t date your office mate at all, even though he or she is the right one for you. The world is not that cruel, really. You could try, discreetly and see how things work out. Who knows, you might even make it last a lifetime. Being professional includes knowing how to put that margin between your workplace and your private life, and when you can do it even when you’re deeply, madly in love with your office mate; why not go on with it? You should know your capabilities better than anyone else.
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I think I would shy away from this. Not saying it couldn’t work out - but if it didn’t, it could get in the way of business, so doubt it would be a great idea. I know of people who live & work together & I know that I could never do it!
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